May 9, 2009

Mother's Day

My mother is a fabulous woman. I know, we all think that right?

Mom was married at 17. She didn't attend her high school graduation, because she had a medical emergency & ended up in the hospital. My dad was so scared he'd lose her, he proposed. They were married a month before mom turned 18.

I am the oldest child of my mother's seven children. I was born 2 weeks before mom's 19th birthday. My brothers Gregory, James, Josh & Daniel quickly followed. So, by the time my mom was almost 26, she had 5 kids under the age of 7. A few years later (when she was about my age NOW), she had two more little girls Rebecca & Michelle. Seven kids in 14 years. Wow!

When I graduated from high school, I was a bit lost. My mother had been married @ my age. I wanted SO badly to find that special guy, to be sealed to him & start our family. Try as I may, I could not. I didn't date very much in high school, so I tried to force myself to be more outgoing. I "liked" some of the boys, but more importantly, I made some very good friendships. It sort-of helped that these boys were planning to serve full-time missions. I learned a lot about myself as I attended Institute & had great experiences at all the YSA activities. I learned to be confident. I learned some of the qualities I liked and disliked in a potential mate. I even met my eternal companion (unbeknownst to me at the time). Most importantly, I think I learned that there is a plan for me. I learned to have faith & put my trust into Heavenly Father's time-table.

Now, I am happily married with my own family with four small children. I look at my mother and have a renewed understanding & respect for her. I know that most people used to marry young, but 18 really is VERY young. I know that my mother had to do a lot of growing-up in a short period of time. In some ways, she took longer to develop some qualities. She has developed the talent of peacemaker, which she often has a chance to practice.

As a child, we are very critical of the things our parents do (especially things we perceive as injustice). Children often think, "when I'm the mom I'll do things..." I know I thought this many times. I have 4 kids, and I find myself wondering just how mom did it. Kids are CRAZY! They only listen to half of what you say, don't cooperate, quarrel with each other (ALL THE TIME!), make messes, scream...OK, you know what I mean. I mean, I remember being scolded and getting my bum spanked. But we were healthy, we were fed & we were safe & loved.

Unfortunately, my family moved away the year after I was married. I feel like I don't have as close of a relationship as I would like. I know she loves me, but we don't talk often. I know sometimes I feel like I'm "Out of sight-Out of Mind", but I don't really believe that. I know she thinks about me, and I hope she knows I think about her often.

So, on the eve of mother's day, I am missing my mom and thinking about all the wonderful women I know that are great examples of Motherhood. I find strength in your friendships. You give me hope that I'm not doing a terrible job, as long as I am patient & teach my children correct principles.

Happy Mother's Day.

2 comments:

Joyce said...

Wow, what a wonderful thing to find on your blog! I had a nice day yesterday, but after Mother's Day is over, it's over. Things go back to the way they have always been, Mom doing it all. I am glad to know I did something right. I think about you and pray for you and your family every day. I am not good at keeping in close contact, but at least you know I am thinking about you.

Love ya,
Mom

Jess said...

You are an amazing mom! Just like your mom. Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!